How do you get through to people? How do you let them know that you care, without feeding the frenzy and fantasy that makes people ache to become the centre of the universe? To vent, and shout and curse and cry and give heartrending accounts of their days and struggles?
Life is unscripted. I realize this. Absolutely. You can prepare, you can plan. And still life comes at you in infinite variety, full-speed ahead. This goes for me, and for the people I meet over the phone. I would hope generally, that we can come together somewhere in the middle.
However, I’m feeling despite the best of intentions, practice, planning and preparation on my part, people are just not prepared to listen to what I have to say. A call that could take 3 minutes, now bursts at the seams as people barge right on through the door that opens once I answer the line.
This morning I had the luxury of a sleep-in, made breakfast, dressed, did a bit of yoga and headed out the door. Work was a hive of activity. I came to the library afterwards to grab a few DVDs and just enjoy the space. Plans for the weekend include a handful of tasks around communications, and lots of self-care.
Some stuff still on my mind, but my head doesn’t feel like it’s going to fall off, so it’s been a good day 😀
Early May last year, our team took a few Pro-D days and headed to Victoria, BC. My memories of this time are good ones. 3 days of sunshine, walks by the ocean, bouncing around on a big bed in the hotel room I had all to myself.
We heard some excellent presentations from the professional members of our team, Dr. Chris Williams who pioneered the Bounce Back program, and clinical consultants, learning about the youth of today and their struggles with anxiety and depression in this 24/7 world we now live in…
The food was superb: breakfast, lunch, dinner and drinks and snacks ready to eat every time you even considered that you might possibly be a smidge hungry.
I learned so much and enjoyed so much and loved the chance to get to see everyone in person and engage in real conversation in real time instead of the usual chats over phone or email.
This year, the gathering is proposed for sometime in the fall, and I hope it meets with the same kind of success as the one held in Victoria, 2018 🙂
The gratitude I feel for this extended weekend is bone-deep.
In as much as I can have no agenda, I’ve managed to make it this far into the day without beating myself up. It’s also sunny and I have the whole day to enjoy it and soak up some light and vitamin D which is super and a nice alternative to deprivation and desperation that I seem to be taking rather hard lately. As gatekeeper/Admin. it’s an occupational hazard.
As I’ve noticed and shared recently (at its most intense, nearly a month to the day), people are not doing so well; they are seeking appropriate help, which is good, admirable, and so important. But holding space for each person and practicing my own self-care has proven to be a challenge.
I took myself out this afternoon, had an omelette, a coffee, a change of scenery.
Remembering to eat, tidying up, reading, yoga, tunes and most especially laundry, these are the items on my to do list for Good Friday, Saturday, Easter Sunday and Easter Monday.
I’m taking it one step at a time and that’s all I can do and all I can say.
My head is a mess right now. You will see evidence of that later. I’ve spent the last 3 hours considering my own content and the last 15 minutes determined to focus on the positive for the next few posts.
So… Maysome surprised the team with a heavenly stash of Häagen-Dazs ice-cream bars and I wasn’t the only one who thought she should receive top honours for services to humanity. The office was wonderfully sweaty, and the ice-cream definitely boosted morale 🙂
This blog is mostly a place for me to record pieces of everyday thoughts and happenings and that anyone reads or enjoys it is rewarding for me to know 🙂 I do enjoy writing it and sending it out into the world.
I have to say I was a bit shocked with the results of my post on waffles! Made me smile and start craving waffles all over again. So, thanks for stopping by sharing your enthusiasm for this edible treat.
Just a note to say the Family Day long weekend was a great success, and work went well today! Anywhere outside Sami Central is still quite literally freezing, though… I’m wondering if I will ever be warm all the way through again.
I play a lot of phone tag at work, get mistaken for a tele-marketer and lend ears towards people’s days, activities and fears when trying to schedule appointments.
One individual absolutely refused to talk on the phone at all: “If you want to talk to me, you can write me a letter!” And the line went dead. I’m not easily dissuaded, so I called her back; I got the exact same response, and closed the file by writing her a letter.
Another person was experiencing extreme frustration at not being able to reach me, despite the fact I had reached out to him several times and returned all of his calls promptly. As some people find it easier to communicate via email, I had offered them that information, also.
The following morning, I opened my inbox to see a rather suspicious looking message: see attached. I opened the message to reveal a multi-page document that went on to detail how frustrated this individual was feeling, and concluded saying the sender preferred to talk on the phone or in person and found it difficult to communicate by email. Why compose a multipage email just to say that email doesn’t work for you?
We agreed to speak on the phone the next day at a mutually agreeable time. End of story!